Support of Friends & Family

[Dawn]

I could not have got through this without the help and understanding of my friends and certain members of my family - others have been more supportive and understanding than others. I think it is very important to have a good network of people to talk to - that are happy for you talk for hours on end!!

[Raven]

I agree,to have people to talk to is so important when you have paternity issues,the saying goes"a problem shared is a problem halved".Just knowing you have someone to talk to,that wont judge you ,and will just listen.Especially if its family that you have trouble with.They can shut down the ranks and just expect you to get over it,with no understanding of the pain that they have caused!!!! And pretend like everything is "normal".But if you are lucky enough to have family members on your side,and good friends it makes you realise that you are being treated badly ,and can help you through what can be a really tough time. Raven x

[Dawn]

Hi Raven,

Thank you for your comments. I'm sure that the person you have supported is so, so grateful for everything you have done for them.

Dawn 

[Dinky]

I think you're so lucky. I feel so alone. I feel so completely cut off from my family and I was brought up to believe that we were so close and would always be there for each other.

 

[Dawn]

Hi,

Thanks for your comments. It is really, really important to have support and love and to be treated like you're no different to your brothers/sisters just because you have a different dad. Unfortunately some people don't realise the damage thats been done and leave you to get through it on your own, but as long as you have other people to lean on - even if it's just friends - you learn that these people and their opinions are not so important as they are too small minded to deal with the issue.

Dawn

[Dinky]

I agree it is really important to have someone to talk to that you can trust. I just find it really hard to comprehend why someone would just stick their head in the sand and pretend like its not happening! I'm really glad I've found this site - thanks for all your help so far....

[Dawn]

You could spend forever trying to fathom why people act in the ways that they do. My situation has taught me that you can't always rely on the people that you thought would always be there for you. But in situations like these the people that are there for you and genuinely care, shine through. I'm glad I've been able to help you.

Dawn x

[TyncDony73]

If anyone knows the Jacobs family from Highwycombe please would you let me know. I am trying to find my cousins. We lost touch some years ago.

[Dawn]

Have you tried the electoral register?